People tell you a lot of sweet lies before you get to college, but once you are here, it is a whole different story. Good thing is, you have four years to figure it out.
We enter freshman year being bombarded with freakishly happy OSL’s, suspiciously perfect sorority and fraternity recruitment people, cringy icebreakers, and an overwhelming amount of organizations that are “perfect for you”. But what do you do two months later when all of this has died down, you are hanging out with people you probably do not even like and are hoping for a miraculous reset button to appear?
To hell with that reset button.
Some of you may be lost, sad, and clinging to anything/anyone who knows your name. We are all afraid of being completely alone in this experience, so it is natural to cling to those closest and most convenient to us.
For some of you, it is drugs and drinking, and for others it might be those people you met your first day of classes—even though deep down you know they annoy you. In the end, we are all struggling to live up to everyone’s expectations that college will be the best years of our lives.
The next time someone says that to you, you tell them to shut up. You tell them your story and how much you hate everyone on your floor, how social anxiety keeps you from making new friends, and how you spend some nights falling asleep, crying to thoughts of a better tomorrow. College sucks for a lot of us, and that is okay. However, it is not healthy to dwell in that suckiness.
You can try to change your routine. Instead of being afraid of being alone, start basking in it. Your little spirit needs a friend, and there is nothing wrong with being your own friend. Go treat yourself to some good dinner or lay in Wilder Park before it gets cold. It is wondrous how much 20 minutes of laying in the sun can alter your mood.
Start journaling. You may not always have someone to talk to, and journaling is a great way to get everything out.
Lastly, stop hanging out with those people you do not like. Being alone is something everyone can benefit from, and once you find what you and yourself enjoy, doing together it will be a much better time than being with people who are only alright.
If you want a better tomorrow, it is most important to start with yourself. You will never be able to change the people that surround you. For those of you who turn to drugs and alcohol, these are only temporary. They may help you escape scary thoughts in the moment, but alcohol is a depressant, and eventually it will all catch up to you.
Get rid of all those expectations that media and people painted for you of college, and take things at your own pace. Eventually, you will love yourself and will not need anyone else to.